Manning Up Craze. Where many go wrong.

There is a misconception that we as humans, make when getting into relationships; mutual or not. We all think it’s all about a bed of roses, bright alleys filled with cupid’s melodies and the weirdest of all, and a 24hr love merry-go-round with no conundrums. Well, that’s a myth, viable only in dreamland. A closer examination to what these unions really mean, impact and affect human life is outrageously immense. Over time, thousands of literal heads, think-tanks, and even those without the slightest inkling of what relationships are, have contributed into this complex realm. I call it so, because it is a daunting task to define what it really is. 

Everyone is entitled to their own personal view, I too have mine, and if it comes out odd and obnoxious, well, it’s my opinion. I am simply having my cake, and sharing it.

From time immemorial, the world has brandished the human male species as a tough lot. To break it down, we live and grow in societies that expect man to man-up literally, be tough, shed less tears, feel less pain, be emotionally cocooned and just be that; a MAN. Women on the other hand, (thanks to the world “en-masse” for drumming up all kind of support for the girl-child), have always been thought to be the weaker sex, which to be sincere is absolute gibberish.! We have seen mind-blowing ideas and strength from women all around the world and to me, the word “Weaker Sex” had never had a place in my dictionary, for which soon, it will. ☻. That is a story for another day. Today, I am going to talk about being a Man in relationships.

In relationships, to many, being a Man, means a tough nut to crack, a protective wall, maturity and all kinds of crazy descriptions really. As we grow up, boys are told to behave in a certain way from girls and vice-versa. Have we ever sat down and thought of a man needing protection, warm emotional support and most important of all, a shoulder to lean on, cry on and support himself on? Yes, these things are REAL, and if you think my words are a disgrace, then think twice.

We are human, be it feminine or masculine, the common base being we all need support, equal measure of love and a listening ear. Courtship are testing grounds before settling down into a more productive/destructive merger.

Yes, communities expect men to be the financial and material providers to families, but the world is changing. Single mothers are bringing up their kids single-handedly, playing both the mother-father figure at the same time. Are you telling me these mothers are not women?

So, to the women out there, treat your man the same way that you want him to treat you, or even more. Do the wonderful stuff that you expect of him and be the pillar that he has been to you. As you read these, contemplate on how far he has gone to be the person he is in your life, and ask yourself whether you are the reason he treats you so. Return his calls, pick him up after work, give him financial support, surprise him with a gift or two while keeping in mind to nurture him to be the person you want him to be to you, your kids and to the world. 
If you are single, and you like a man, approach him, say it. It’s not going to kill or maim you! Take him out on a date. If you have been in a relationship for decades and he is not posing that question, ask yourself this, are you giving him that chance to speak out? You might be the reason why he is taking centuries to say it.

When all has been said and done, take care of yourself out there people. Trust your conscience, do what you think your heart is telling you its right and always be yourself! Cheers!

Note: To you who is reading this, you are entitled to your own view, and whatever I have written, it is my personal opinion, and will remain as such whether disgruntling or not.