Random Stirrings of The Mind.

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Expectations.

There’s a peculiar kind of heartbreak that doesn’t begin with cruelty, but with imagination. It starts when someone sketches a version of you in their mind. Not with pencil and paper, but with assumptions, hopes, and quiet projections. In that private gallery, you are flawless. Predictable. Convenient. You say the right things, feel the right feelings, arrive exactly when needed, and never stray from the script they’ve written for you. And then, one day, you don’t. You hesitate where they expected certainty. You change where they expected permanence. You reveal a shadow where they insisted there was only light. And suddenly, you become a disappointment. But here’s the truth that doesn’t get said enough: you didn’t fail them. You simply refused to live inside a story that was never yours. The Weight of Being Imagined Expectations can feel soft at first, almost flattering. Someone believes in you, sees potential, admires something they think is consistent and reliable. But expecta...

The Life We Keep Postponing: Seneca and the Reminder to Live

The Roman philosopher Seneca observed something unsettling about human nature: people spend most of their lives preparing to live instead of actually living. They work, plan, optimize, and wait for the “right moment.” The right time to relax, to enjoy, to be present, to finally feel alive. But that moment keeps moving. It always seems just out of reach. What makes this idea so uncomfortable is how familiar it feels. We tell ourselves that once things settle down, we’ll start living properly. Once the workload eases. Once we earn a bit more. Once we fix a few things. Life becomes something scheduled for later, as if it’s waiting patiently for us at the end of our to-do list. Seneca saw through this illusion. In his writings, he pointed out that people are strangely careful with trivial things but careless with time, the one thing that cannot be replaced. We guard our money, our possessions, even our reputation. But time slips away unnoticed, often spent in preparation for a life ...

Why We’re So Bad at Judging People: A Look at Attribution Bias.

Have you ever instantly labeled someone as lazy, rude, or incompetent only to later realize you were completely wrong? That snap judgment has a name: attribution bias, and it quietly shapes how we see other people every day. At its core, attribution bias is about how we explain behavior. Whenever something happens, your brain automatically asks, why did this person do that? The problem is that your brain prefers quick answers over accurate ones. Instead of carefully weighing all possibilities, it jumps to conclusions, usually by oversimplifying what’s actually going on. One of the most common forms of this is the fundamental attribution error, which boils down to a simple but powerful pattern: we assume other people’s behavior reflects who they are, while our own behavior is shaped by circumstances. If someone shows up late to a meeting, it’s easy to think they’re irresponsible or careless. But when you’re the one running late, suddenly it’s because traffic was bad or something ur...

Heal So That You Don’t Carry Your Hurt to Others

Hear me out, we all go through seasons of pain, loss, betrayal, disappointment, or the weight of unspoken struggles. These experiences leave marks on us, and if we don’t take the time to heal, we risk carrying that pain into new spaces and passing it on to people who had no part in causing it. Unhealed wounds show up in subtle ways: sharp words spoken in anger, defensiveness where none is needed, or distance in relationships where closeness is craved. What once hurt us can become a lens through which we see the world, shaping our responses without us even realizing it. Healing doesn’t mean pretending it never happened. It means giving yourself permission to acknowledge the pain, to process it, and to grow beyond it. It’s an act of self-care, but also an act of care for others, because when we heal, we stop the cycle of passing pain forward. The journey to healing takes time. It requires honesty, patience, and sometimes even help from others. But the reward is freedom: the freedom to lo...

Fears and Wars

He has his own fears, often he beholds his own wars, some days with a raised face and at times with a downcast smug. Hate and love are two perfect sides of a coin, there is no in-between. He often tries not to judge people that he rans into amidst the craziness of life. Some new, some acquaintances and many that he has known over long conversations. His type of conversations covers short spurts of strenuous "hellos" and "heys". The amount of fake charades on people's faces and actions always makes his heart cringe; not with fear but with a lot of pain. It takes a certain amount of opening up to get to let people into his life, especially when one is reserved. And when he does, his life resides there; a center of unhinged openness . He hates changes and often a great deal is characterized with a Traditionalist view. He likes to see things organized in a certain way; less drama. Untidy workplaces irritates the comfort in him, and interrupted schedule screws up ...

The Steady Stopwatch that lost Count.

Ever woken up in the middle of the night, and just sat there, in pitch black darkness, wondering where you life is headed? Well, I cannot spend my whole entire youth grovelling over something that this accursed existence cannot give. There are instances where I have thought of where comfort zones and taking the over-hyped "risks" come into play. A thin line so to say. sadness brims the heart that melts from a simple resistance. There are things that I cannot change; there are those that I can flip with a blink and voila, they are gone, albeit with minimal or no effort at all. I can choose to smile, or frown, to laugh or cry, or even to love or hate, bad or good; and so forth and so on, you catch my drift. One thing though, you are the person that you are, some things you cannot change, they are part and parcel of your existence. Other things can be altered to fit your environment and enhance your daily dos and don'ts. I choose to smile, to love: to always make so...