Men hate Criticism

Men interpret criticism as contempt, and contempt is something men do not handle well. Ladies must grasp that their men aren't half as big and strong and impervious to being hurt as they might seem. A woman may envision herself as a sweet little dewdrop and her man as a big, strong bear who should be able to absorb any kind of punishment. One huge fellow was stunned by his beloved's outburst and attack and said to her,"You hate me."

Frustrated, she replied,"When I scream 'I hate you,' you should know i don't mean it. You are 6'9"" and weigh 260 pounds, for goodness' sake. I do that because you can take it."

The truth is, however, a lot of men can't take it. No matter how big they may be physically, emotionally they are vulnerable to what sounds like contempt.
This means that, men need to feel respected during conflict more than they need to feel loved. This does not mean men do not need love.

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