Random Stirrings of The Mind.

A couple of days ago, someone admirable recommended Matt Haig’s bestseller, “The book of comfort”. He succinctly remembers that early-noon class, a backbencher notwithstanding, her rather audible undertones quipped, “Matt Haig will rattle your wits,” and true to those words, the pearly comforting words, some a one-pager, others a single sentence; are becoming a closer companion. Matt talks about the noun “Mess” in one of the pages and this piece struck quite home, especially on how this day, the 13th of the first month of the start of autumn. Trees outside, show the tell-tale signs of hue flaxen and aureate. The easterly weather is toning down to a cool and bristle feel. He woke up with the heaviness of an awry feel down the pits of the stomach. And true to that, two hammers had dropped in a day. In that piece, Matt quips that the hardest thing to be is oneself. He points out that we are so overloaded that we cannot always see the truth of who we are. We turn to distraction sometim...

The most neglected character in human nature is perhaps, the simplest, but a little-understood situation that has stunted growth in past and present interactions; Closure. Closure relegates the feeling of rejection with the sense of acknowledgment as to why something one-sided took place. That "bad situation" often involves a one-sided break-up where the person terminating the relationship has not acted compassionately, decently, or even humanely in the aftermath. In an attempt to renounce accountability and guilt, he or she refuses to give a former partner closure, causing the rejected person tremendous pain and distress. We often fall back on the notion that only you can give yourself closure perhaps because it's an easy way out for the person who has been broken up to have the perception of control in a situation where realistically none exists. This premise essentially holds some truth: We are all given the responsibility of taking care of our own lives. Finding cl...